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Photo Credit: Unknown

Something my parents didn’t have to wrestle with was figuring out when to let me or my sister get a social media account.

When is it a good time to allow your kids on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, Snapchat, Tumblr, and other social media apps? Hopefully, if your a parent or want to be one day, you are wrestling with this question! Continue Reading…

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The beautiful lady on the far right is my wife.

I have the greatest kids. I really do, and if you know my family you can bear witness to this fact.

My kids aren’t perfect—they have their allotment of problems and issues, but by and large my kids are great.

I wish I could say I was a super-parent, you know one of those dads, who takes every moment and makes it a life-changing lesson. Or intentionally spent a ton of time with them.  Continue Reading…

A Quick Parent Thought…

Today is a big day in the Puentes house. My son will be graduating high school today!

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It doesn’t seem that long ago when my oldest daughter graduated high school, and now she is turning twenty-one years old later this year.

In a phrase that my wife uses sometimes, “Oh my word!”

Time sure does fly when your having fun.

Isn’t this true with most things? Before we know it, the things we felt were permanent, slip away and dissipate—it’s a thing of beauty and a curse.

I ramble, but in all honesty so many things in this world are temporal.

Even our relationships with our kids to some extent.

These, these relationships don’t have to be!

Make every effort to show grace and love to your kids before they move out—love your neighbor to Jesus. All of us are made in the image of God.

“Let this be your wish: That whether in life or in death God may be glorified in you.” — Thomas à Kempis, The Imitation of Christ

Parents!

No matter your circumstances—economic situation, living environment, single parent, teen parent, grandparent, guardian, and etc…

Don’t give up. Never give up!

What you do and what you say to your kids will make a difference in the trajectory of their future.

Invest in them, invest in yourself. Believe in them and believe in yourself.

You can do it.

KD’s mom did and look at what happened.

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Here is a quick parenting thought for the day:

When you can, take you kids to school.

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Photo Credit: Pxabay

Photo Credit: Pxabay

 

I’m so glad we didn’t have cell phones when my kids were little. When we went to the park, I played with my kids. Now it seems that when I walk by a park or playground, all I see are kids running around and parents sitting on a park bench with their heads down playing on their cell phones…

Man, I was always “king of the jungle gym” when my kids were little.

Parent thought for the day.

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Teenage girl in trouble with parents

Ever wonder what your 16 year old is thinking when you lecture them in a public restaurant?

If you do that, you’ll keep wondering.

Seriously. Don’t take your child to a very public restaurant and lecture them on something that needs your attention and correction.

Do this and you will be enacting one simple way your child will listen to you and you will also be one step closer to capturing your child’s heart.

I don’t want to make this blog post complicated. In fact, what I’m writing about can be be fixed with a straightforward solution. 
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Something really cool happened after church this past Sunday. My son and I started having a conversation on what it means to be a pastor.

My son is a senior in high school and wants to follow in my foot steps and attend Ozark Christian College (My alma mater), and go into full-time ministry.

We talked about what the calling of a pastor means. We talked about how some of the things to remember is that ministry is about people. Programming and stage decorations and paint have their place, ministry is always about people.

And specifically the job of a pastor is to guide people back to the heart of God, and help them see grace operating in their lives.  Continue Reading…

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(Picture of my son running a video camera at CIY MIX. He is a youth coach for our middle school ministry)

This photo does two things to me:
It makes me a proud dad…
It strikes fear into my heart…

It makes me proud because my son is willing to listen and follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit for direction and calling in his life, because honestly who in their right mind wants to be a youth pastor (If you didn’t know, I was a youth pastor for 18 years until just recently). I am proud because my son wants to be a kingdom worker, and be a servant-leader in the heart of Jesus.

It also strikes fear in my heart, because it reminds me that our kids pay attention to us and that time is short.

I have had the honor and privilege to be my son’s youth pastor for almost all of his teens years (This is his senior year of high school and I jut recently moved to another ministry position at the church). He is graduating from high school this coming year and wants to head off to Ozark Christian College (My alma-mater), after he graduates, and begin the journey of being a youth pastor. My son has been observing me all these years, both at home and in my ministry.

He has observed my good side and my ugly side. He has seen when I get this follower of the way thing right and when I have fallen flat on m face.

I only hope that I have been an exemplary example to him; someone who has demonstrated a dependency on the power of the Holy Spirit and the desire to be a reflection of Jesus to my neighbors… I hope I uplifted Jesus and not myself. He is following in my footsteps, I only hope I was a good model for him.

As mentioned, my son is a senior in high school and in about nine short months he will be heading off to college and begin his own journey of what God has called him to. Who knows he might find a wife and begin a family, he might permanently move to another state or even another country, or he might realize God has put different calling on his life and pursue that.

What I know is that in a blink of an eye he has matured to become an independent young adult who is following his own path, with his own hopes and dreams that the Lord has laid on his heart… It seems like yesterday that my son and I were rolling on the ground wrestling each, and of course I let him win… NOT.

What this all boils down to is legacy. As parents, we need to remember that the focal point of our legacy should not be ourselves, our hopes, dreams, and desires, but it should be *us* following Jesus to the best of our ability, and displaying to our kids the grace that God gives us when we have victories or when we fail.

Our kids are watching us. Who are you modeling to your kids?